I still remember the exact moment I hit my breaking point.
I was working as a Business Development Manager, and I looked at my calendar. It was a disaster. I was spending about five hours a day in meetings. I sat there, staring at the blocks of time, realizing it was absolutely impossible to get any real work done.
To make it worse, I was stuck in a room with “that” colleague. You probably know the type. They never stop talking. They always seem to have a million ideas, but they never execute on a single one of them. It created so much frustration for me. I was trapped listening to noise when I should have been driving revenue.
That was when I decided things had to change. I couldn’t keep working in a way where my time belonged to everyone else.
I started using Asynchronous Work (or “Async work” for short).
Most people think async work is just a policy for remote companies. They are wrong. Async work is a personal shield. It is a tool for high performers who want to protect their time, enter a flow state, and actually get things done.
I didn’t ask for permission. I just changed how I operated. And the results spoke for themselves. I didn’t work more hours, but my output doubled. I brought in double the revenue for the business simply by canceling a few meetings and ignoring Slack for a few hours.
Here is how I did it, and how you can do it too.
What is Asynchronous Work?
Let’s keep this simple.
Synchronous work is when you and your team have to be online at the same time to get things done. It is immediate. It is meetings, phone calls, and tapping someone on the shoulder.
Asynchronous work is when you work on your own schedule. You complete a task, send it off, and don’t expect an immediate reply. You move on to the next task without waiting.
The big difference isn’t just about where you work. It is about how you work. You can be sitting right next to someone and still work asynchronously. The goal is to move from being paid for your presence (sitting in a chair) to being paid for your output (the results you deliver).
The Mindset: Output Over Everything
The biggest fear people have about switching to async work is what their boss will think. They worry they will look like they are slacking off.
When I started this journey, I realized that managing leadership is quite literally all about output.
If you push back on meetings and ignore emails for a few hours, but you get nothing done, you will get fired. But if you use that time effectively, it becomes obvious that you are winning.
After one month, two months, and three months of my new process, my managers saw my numbers go up significantly. That is the best way to convince them. You don’t convince them with an argument. You convince them with results.
When I doubled the revenue I was bringing in, nobody cared that I missed the Tuesday morning catch-up meeting.
My Rules of Engagement
To make this work, you need rules. If you don’t set rules for your time, other people will set them for you.
Here are the specific boundaries I set for myself during my time in business development.
1. The 3-Check Rule
I made a rule that I only check email and Slack messages three times a day:
- Once in the morning.
- Once in the afternoon.
- Once at the end of the day.
This sounds scary. What if you miss something? But the truth is, constant checking breaks your focus. By batching my communication into these three blocks, I opened up massive windows of time for deep work.
2. Don’t Ask, Just Do
People often ask me, “How do you tell your boss you are doing this without sounding difficult?”
My answer is simple: You don’t ask.
You just start doing it. If you try to explain it beforehand, it sounds like you are being difficult. But if you just start replying at set times, people adapt. They start to understand your cadence.
The key is consistency. If you sometimes reply instantly and sometimes reply in four hours, people get confused. If you are consistent, you train the people around you to know when to expect an answer.
3. The “Value in the Room” Test
My goal for accepting meetings became very strict. I looked at every invite and asked two questions:
- Does this directly impact my goals?
- Am I going to bring value to the room?
If I am not going to bring value to a room, I should not be in the room. Period.
The Truth About Communication
One of the biggest lessons I learned is that people talk more than they actually say.
Think about the last five meetings you went to. How much of that time was spent sharing new, insightful information that moved the business forward? Probably very little.
Most of the time, people are just regurgitating the same things over and over again. They like the sound of their own voice. They like the feeling of “being busy” that a meeting provides.
When you switch to async work, you force people to write things down. When you have to write something down, you cut out the fluff. You get to the point.
By skipping the meetings where people are just talking to talk, you can spend that time executing. While they are talking about the work, you are doing the work.
Dealing with the “Urgent” Trap
There is one trap you have to watch out for. It is the difference between “Urgent” and “Urgent for Me.”
A lot of people will think something is urgent because it is on their mind right now. They are stressed, so they want you to be stressed. They send you a message marked “URGENT.”
But in reality, it is rarely urgent.
I have found that if someone sends a frantic message and you ignore it for 30 minutes, the problem often solves itself. They find the answer. They realize it wasn’t a big deal. Or they ask someone else.
You have to understand the difference between a fire that is burning the house down and a fire that is just in someone else’s mind.
Of course, real emergencies happen. But they are rare. For everything else, use the 30-minute pause. Protect your peace.
Training Your Team
When you start working this way, your team might struggle at first. Especially the people who need constant validation or hand-holding.
It is all about speed and efficiency for me. I want to contribute to those around me, but I cannot do that if I am distracted.
To train them to be async, you have to respect your own boundaries. It is all about you. If you cave in and answer a non-urgent message instantly, you have broken your training. You have taught them that you are available.
You have to be very restrictive with your boundaries. Over time, the team learns. They learn that if they send you a good, detailed email, they get a great, detailed response at 1:00 PM. They learn to batch their questions. They adapt.
The Personal Payoff: Why This Matters
This isn’t just about making more money for the company. It is about your quality of life.
My async process worked in a lot of different ways. Yes, it gave me the freedom to crush work goals consistently. It allowed me to enter a “Flow State”—that feeling where you are totally locked in and time disappears. You can’t get into flow if you are interrupted every 15 minutes.
But it also allowed me to recover.
Because I wasn’t glued to Slack, I could take time to reset during the day. I could go take my dog for a walk. I could chat with my wife for 30 minutes. I could do these things without having a panic attack about a missed message.
I wasn’t working fewer hours than my colleagues. I was putting in the time. But because I controlled when I did the work, I was happier. I was sharper.
When I sat down to work, I was at Peak Performance. When I stepped away, I was actually away.
The Human Element
There is one risk with async work. You can become a ghost.
If you are only focused on efficiency, you might stop treating your colleagues like people. You don’t want to be a robot who only talks about tasks.
People want to hire and promote people they like. If you are fully remote or working asynchronously, you have to be intentional about connection.
Here is how I handle the human element:
- Message on the side: I send messages that have nothing to do with work. I ask about their weekend. I share a joke.
- Find their interests: Just like you would with a friend, find out what they care about. Do they like sports? Cooking? Travel?
- Help them win: I combine relationship building with work goals. I make sure I am helping them achieve their targets.
You have to build these relationships in the margins. You don’t need a one-hour meeting to build a friendship. You need consistent, genuine interaction.
Async Work is the Future
The modern workplace is designed to distract you. It is designed to keep you in meetings, in your inbox, and in a state of reaction.
If you want to be a high performer, you cannot play by those rules. You have to take control.
You have to stop renting your time to anyone who sends you a calendar invite. You have to prioritize your output over your presence.
It won’t be easy at first. You will feel guilty when you don’t reply instantly. You will worry when you decline a meeting. But then, you will see the results. You will see your revenue climb. You will feel the clarity of deep work. You will enjoy that walk with your dog.
Start today. Close your email. Decline that meeting. Do the work.
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Further Reading
Scientific References To understand the science behind focus and asynchronous work, I recommend:
- The Cost of Interrupted Work by Gloria Mark et al. (UC Irvine). Research on how interruptions increase stress and kill focus.
- The Impact of Burstiness on Team Performance by Riedl & Woolley. (Harvard Business Review). Why teams that alternate between silence and communication perform better.
- Deep Work by Cal Newport. (While a book, it is the definitive guide on the philosophy of unplugging to produce high-level output).
